Sophisticated Decisions, Real Time Decisions

And if you see criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling coming up early in a relationship, let that be a sign for you to seriously consider whether it is worth your while to keep it going.

Taking your own counsel, again In the end, there are as many ways of keeping a relationship going as there are relationships. What’s important is to be aware of why you wish to keep a relationship going. It is one thing to keep it going because it’s a source of fulfillment for both of you, and another to keep it going just for the sake of keeping it going. Generally speaking, if something adds to your growth and freedom, you should keep it in your life; if not, you should let it go. That rule applies to relationships as well.

Chapter Conclusion In Blink, Malcolm Gladwell improvisational comedy and how it involves people “making very sophisticated decisions on the spur of the moment, without the benefit of any script or plot.” There are two reasons why they can do that successfully and generate funny shows night after night. The first is that everyone in the troupe has rehearsed their basic skills extensively. The second is that, at the time of the show, they are all operating based on a set of agreed upon rules. Likewise, The Tao of Dating is providing you with the rules to enable you to render those crucial, real time decisions in the dating arena.