The Feelings

Once you have learned to masturbate just to feel good, then you can begin masturbating to have an orgasm. Find at least 30 minutes when you can be alone. Repeat everything you did in the previous activity. But this time, focus on stimulating your clitoris and pushing yourself past the point of no return. When you feel as if your body is reaching some peak of sexual excitement, don’t stop. Keep masturbating. Increase the intensity. Don’t stop.

You may feel the good feelings getting more intense, then keep going until you roll those feelings beyond where you have taken them before into the feelings of orgasm.

7. Use a vibrator.If you are having trouble making it to that point of no return, then you should start using a vibrator to push yourself a little bit further. Buy an electric vibrator, preferably the Hitachi Magic Wand (or try one of the other vibrators described in Chapter 19). Hold it on your clitoris when you masturbate, and try to keep it there while you move and touch your body.

Keep trying to bring yourself to orgasm, but stay relaxed.

8. Involve your partner.

When you are with your partner, repeat the relaxation and breathing activities. When you are being sexual, focus on how good it feels to be with him or her. Make sure that you are getting lots of clitoral stimulation. Then try to allow yourself to go beyond those feelings and to allow yourself to let go and have an orgasm.9. Fantasize and role play.